Category Archives: Self-awareness

Single Life

This is a talk that I will be sharing with a group of female residents at the Sumter County Correctional Intitute in June of this year.  I had some fellow attendees ask me to post it here.  It is long, the talk is supposed to last from 15 to 20 minutes. 

10th Talk – Residents Encounter Christ #14

Good morning, Ladies.  I’m going to talk to you this morning about a lifestyle that can be both the most frustrating and the most rewarding that you’ll ever know.  My talk is about the single life and I promise that you can be single, but never be alone.  Hi.  My name is Karen, and I am living that life.

From the time that we are born, little girls are conditioned to long for love.  We are told fairy tales with damsels and princesses who wait to be rescued by heroes and handsome princes.  We dream of weddings and dresses…of ceremonies and happily ever afters.  But the single life of reality doesn’t usually turn out that way, does it? Continue reading Single Life


Day One – A New Journey Begun (again)

Join me on the adventure to a healthy life.I know this might come as a shock to you, but I am *gasp* overweight.  Not just pleasantly plump or fluffy – I’m what the doctors have rather frighteningly referred to as Super Morbidly Obese.  How’s that for a cutesy name?  

Well, I’ve struggled with weight issues literally my entire life.  Ok, so there was this one time, in first grade, when Mrs. Durschimer said that my mom wasn’t feeding me enough and I was too thin.  But I promise you, I was not!  

I was the smallest of my mother’s babies, but I quickly made up for that.  I remember how proud my mom was when she described how picky my other sisters were about their food, but that I was a great eater.  I would eat anything that she gave me.  And I was the queen of the clean plate club.  Well, the queen is ready to be dethroned! Continue reading Day One – A New Journey Begun (again)

A Shark, a Surfer and a Story of Survival

This is the real surfboard Bethany was riding when she was attacked by a 14-foot tiger shark. Photo by

From the time we are old enough to speak in sentences, everyone asks us the one pivotal question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”  Bethany Hamilton’s answer came quickly and definitively.  She wanted to be a professional surfer.  That was her dream.  So she set about doing what she could to make her dreams come true.  She trained.  She competed.  She won.  It looked like her dreams were becoming reality.

Then the nightmare began.  Continue reading A Shark, a Surfer and a Story of Survival

10 Ways to Overcome Temptations

As human beings, we like to think we are strong, but the truth is we struggle in many areas.

 We tend to give into temptations. We try our level best to control ourselves, but there are those times that we let temptation get the best of us, and then we do things we don’t want to do.   Like the apostle, Paul – we know what is right, but we do the very thing we hate.  There must be a way out. Well, I did a little research and this is what I came up with.

1.  Learn from Your Mistakes

Everybody makes mistakes, but they must not rule us. Nobody expects you to be perfect, but we also need to be able to learn from the mistakes we make.  Fool me once, shame on you.  Fool me twice, shame on me.  Weakness becomes a problem when we refuse to grow and learn from our past slip ups.  When you are able to learn from your mistakes, you are better equipped to resist your areas of temptation. Continue reading 10 Ways to Overcome Temptations

The Prison of Want

Every single one of us knows what it feels like to want something.  From the moment we take our first breath, we are able to loudly assert our desire for something that we want.  We want food, we want comfort, we want sleep, we want to be held.  For an infant, our wants are simple, but as we grow, we learn to want more.  We want a particular toy, we want a certain snack, we want just the right pair of shoes.  The older we get, the more elaborate and demanding our wants become.  We want more money, we want designer clothing, we want the biggest house, we want the perfect spouse.

When we get something we want, it makes us feel good—for a while.  Soon, though, you want something else.  It’s easy to fall into the mindset of thinking that what you have is never enough and to equate what we want with our happinessSingle people say, “If only I were married, then I would be happy.”  Married people say, “If only we had a baby, then we would be happy.”  Employees say, “If only I made more money, then I would be happy.”

The problem isn’t WHAT you want…it’s the fact that your happiness is tied inexorably to the want.  It becomes a vicious cycle of want – pleasure – disappointment – and want again.  It’s a prison.  But you can be set free.  The key to unlocking the door to your dungeon of desire is already in your hand.  You just have to use it.

Here are three things that will help set you free from your prison of want. Continue reading The Prison of Want